Frequently Asked Questions

Here is a selection of frequent inquiries I get, as well as information you are required to know prior to booking a face to face meeting with Me. Once you have read this section, you can submit a booking request here. Please include any other questions you may have that I did not answer below in the additional questions box on the booking request form. 

I will know if you have read this page, so do not try to skip over this requirement. I work very hard to provide you the most professional, unique, and personable experience possible – think of reading this as doing your part to help make your time with Me that much more special. 

Where do you see clients?

I currently offer incall sessions in Oakland and San Francisco, and outcall across the Bay Area. There is an additional $50 donation for outcall sessions, and they are offered at my discretion.

Do you travel?

Absolutely! I have a lovely Fly Me To You experience, which varies in price depending on distance, and length of visit. These kinds of sessions are offered only after extensive screening, airfare has been purchased, and a $400 non-refundable deposit has been paid in advance. For more information on FMTY, please fill out my contact form.

Do you offer other ways I can get to know you outside of booking a session or dinner date?

I offer a Get To Know Me experience, where we can meet for coffee and you can feel out our chemistry. I do not do any kissing or play during this time, I pick the place where we will meet, and I always expect you to pay for my beverage. The tribute for this is $100 for a 30-minute coffee date, and $150 for a 1-hour coffee date. There is no screening required for this sort of date, however if you plan to see me for a session, I will ask to see your ID.

I also offer phone calls and sexting via my NiteFlirt ad, and sell clips – click here to find out more.

Who do you enjoy spending time with?

I enjoy playing with smart, honest, communicative, polite, safe, sane, creative, and curious adults. Your level of experience does not play a part in whether or not I will see you – although it does play a role in how I will navigate our time together. I do not discriminate against any race, gender identity, sexual orientation, or any identity that is personal to you. I am a very open minded, sex positive, queer individual. I am discreet and respectful, and I expect the same from you. 

Who do you not want to see?

I do not want to see people who are jerks, pigs, or boundary pushers, and I detest people who lie or overindulge. Please tell me your fears, hard lines, weaknesses, strengths, secrets – anything that will make you feel more comfortable during our time together.

What do you offer in a session?

You can find details of what I offer by visiting my sessions page.

What don’t you do in sessions?

These are my hard limits – do not question them or request them during our session or any time preceeding:
Ruby play, needle play, race play, rope bondage, BBFS, and Greek.

What is your tribute per session?

You can find that information on my sessions page. Tribute varies depending on what kind of experience you are looking for.

How do I book a session with you?

The first step to booking with me is to read my FAQ – which, as of now, you have almost completed. The second step is to fill out my contact form. This form includes information related to how you would like our time to be spent together, as well as screening information.

Screening – This is not only for my safety, but yours as well. I am very discreet and will NEVER disclose any of the information you share with me prior to or during our session with anyone – regardless if I book with you or not. Screening is NON-NEGOTIABLE – if you try to skip out on being screened you will simply never receive a reply from me.


There are a few ways which I can screen you…

The first option is to provide a minimum of 2 references from currently active providers you have seen in the past 2 years. In the contact form, please provide the following:

  • The provider’s name
  • The name, email and/or phone number you use to book with the provider
  • Their email, or phone number – Please ASK the provider which of these contact methods they prefer
  • A link to their website, a verified ad (PrivateDelights, Slixa, Tryst, etc), or a link to their social media.
    I will NOT go out of my way to search for your references – it is your job to provide to me a way to contact them, verify them, and confirm with them that it is appropriate to use them as a reference
    You can also give provider references by sending me a screening request through your PrivateDelights account. If you have reviewed at least 2 verified providers on PD, and they have responded to your reviews, I accept that as a valid reference!

If you have been out of the lifestyle for a while or have not seen a provider before, please continue on to these methods:
• In the box on the booking request form marked Provider References, please include either a link to your public LinkedIn, a public social media profile, and/or a link to a professional business website where your name and contact information are shown.
• If you do not have a LinkedIn, public social media, or a business website, there is one final method of screening I accept. Please write a professional and polite message explaining that while you do not have any of the aforementioned screening information available, you have other methods in which you can prove to that you are not a jerk or dangerous person to be around.

Once I have received your message, I will write back to you and request that you send me:
o A photograph of your driver’s license, passport, or ID card with your personal information covered or blurred out (you must leave your photo, birthdate and name exposed, everything else can be hidden) OR a photo of your work ID/business card.
o I will also request a selfie of you holding 3 fingers up, or holding your ID to verify that you are indeed the individual whose ID you provided me.

In the box on the booking request form marked Provider References, please include either a link to your public LinkedIn profile and/or a link to a professional business website where your name and contact information are shown.

If you do not have a LinkedIn or business website, please write a professional and polite message explaining that while you do not have either of these available, you have other methods in which you can prove to Me that you are not a jerk or dangerous person to be around.

Once I have received the above information, I will write back to you and request that you send me:

A photograph of your driver’s license or ID card with your personal information covered or blurred out (you must leave your photo and name exposed, everything else can be hidden) OR a work ID with your picture/a photo of your business card OR an email sent to me (to a separate non risque sounding email address of mine) from your business email. 

Deposit – When I set aside My time for you, I am turning away other clients. Because of this, I require a non-refundable $50 per first time booking deposit paid in advance. This fee is subtracted from My hourly tribute, and you pay the remainder when you arrive for your session. It is non-refundable, so if you flake or cancel last minute for any reason – you will lose the entire deposit amount. If you do or say something that causes Me to feel I need to cancel or end the session prematurely due to My safety or security – you will lose your deposit and any tribute paid to Me at that point in time.

Deposits can be paid by any of these methods: PayPal, CirclePay, Ca$happ, or Amazon gift card. I will provide the information for the pay method you choose. If you send it electronically do NOT include a risque or flirtatious note as the reason for sending – put something discreet such as “for the utilities” or “happy anniversary”.

I am gracious enough that if you inform Me that you need to reschedule within 24 hours of our session – I will allow the deposit to be applied to the next session you book with Me.

Other general protocol for seeing Me:

No cologne, or scents please. I am sensitive to these, and will require you to shower if you wear something that bothers Me. The shower time will come out of your session.

Show up clean – hygiene is super important to Me. If you arrive sweaty, dirty, or having any foul smell to your body – I will require you to shower beforehand, and that time will come out of your session.

If you would like to participate in any prostate stimulation or anal play that requires more than just a finger or two – use an enema – these are available at your local drugstore and are very affordable. I can and will also gladly assist in this as part of your time with Me, if you prefer.

Show up on time – never early, or late. If you are late, your session time will be adjusted accordingly. The tribute amount will stay the same.

Follow the general rules of the dungeon – respect the equipment and toys, ask before touching things, do not take anything from the premises or the spot where it lives inside the premises, clean up after yourself in the bathroom, do not leave bodily fluids ANYWHERE, no unacceptably loud noises (if you are a screamer – let me know and we can arrange something to take care of that.)

Do not show up intoxicated to the point that you are not of sound mind to consent. I am sober and will not partake in any consumption – I am fine if you do so.

I will assess your soundness of mind, and if I feel you are too intoxicated to play safely, will dismiss you without a refund. Keep this in mind.

You may bring beer or wine for you to consume during our session – do NOT bring any illegal drugs or liquor to the dungeon. This includes cannabis as it is not federally legalized.

Any remaining questions you have, once again, please include them all in the additional questions box on the application.

Click here to submit a Booking Request.